I'm a 21-year-old male graduate student at Penn State University in University Park, PA, set to graduate on December 16, 2005. I'll obtain a Masters of Engineering in Computer Science and Engineering. In addition to going to school, I work part-time for the Navy on a classified project. In my rare free time, I enjoy playing role-playing videogames, and reading fantasy novels. I'm an active person, lifting weights or running five times a week, and participating in sports like raquetball and basketball.
I'm not the typical person you would think of when reading subject matter like this. I could possibly be considered the unluckiest (or perhaps most inept) person when it comes to dating. On the other hand, it's not as if I didn't try; I'm currently on a streak of eight consecutive rejections.
Those rejections are what prompted me to start writing. Not being rejected, specifically, but the manner in which those rejections occurred. In one or two cases, I received a polite no and moved on with no harm done. In another two, the woman offered a transparent excuse, which while not exactly forthright, I can see was offered in a kind way to avoid undue emotional harm. In the other half of the cases, however, I contacted her two or three times, and she completely ignored whatever I had to say. One time, she had volunteered to do something for an unrelated event and she later simply didn't produce what was needed, ruining the presentation for 30 people. Another time, a woman flirted shamelessly, smiling and touching and sending 20 E-Mails per day (this is an actual number), but when I asked her out, she made up an excuse.
I'm sure that many will think that I'm simply doing something wrong to be getting all these rejections. I'll be the first to admit that I am; after all, I've heard of people with success rates of 50% or higher. What exactly is causing the rejections is irrelevant, because I can deal with being rejected. What I can't accept is the completely rude and uncaring manner in which these rejections occurred. I may be bad at connecting with women, but I don't see how this shortcoming gives people an excuse to act this way.
Some might say that my lack of experience and my continual failure means that I shouldn't be writing this blog. On the contrary, most people by this age who have had "success" have been ingrained with the right way to "play the game." I would offer that not being involved in a successful long-term relationship and not having had much contact with girls in high school makes me more qualified to write, because I was never fully assimilated into the culture of game-playing and never became used to this scheming. The final decision, of course is up to you.
Here goes!
Go on blind dates and agree to be set up by your friends. These will either end up being:
It’s funny, I have been thinking about writing this entry for a few days now and jotting things down here and there that I wanted to include and now Steve has practically introduced it for me. What better time could there be to bring up (lightheartedly)
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A girl friend of mine sent me the book He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. If you read my blog then you know that I was recently seeing someone that I was having a hard time letting
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