I had an interesting weekend (which is why I am so behind here). I left home last Friday afternoon heading to Dallas for a weekend with some other single parents. The majority of us were from some part of Texas, but others traveled from Canada, the UK, and New York. On my second night out, I met a guy. His conversation starter/pick-up line was “So, did you know that the Pope died today?” In retrospect this was a horrible way to start a conversation, but the absurdity of his saying it made me laugh and therefore broke the proverbial ice. I asked him what in the world he was thinking starting a conversation that way and he said, “Well, I had to think of something to say and that was the first thing that came to mind.” Before the night was over with, I gave this guy my number.
This, ladies and gentlemen, is all a pick up line really is. It is simply a way to strike up a conversation. It isn’t horribly scary, just as approaching someone of the opposite sex, while it may be unsettling, shouldn’t be scary. What it should be is a ‘hi, how are you doing?’ kind of thing. I know that you all can do it! You just walk up and say something witty or if you need to justify it, something practical. You can start with some pre-pick up lines like asking what time it is, how to get to the nearest tourist attraction, do they have a lighter, have they seen your ‘friend’, etc. These aren’t going to get you very far so you had better be ready to start a conversation afterwards. But, at least if you give it a shot and since you came over for a reason, if you pick up on some not-so-interested vibes, you can use your 'in' as an 'out'. 'Oh, there's my friend. Thanks!' or 'It's eleven, I've got to go. Thanks!'.
I’ve always found that if two people with outgoing personalities are sitting in a room together, they will find something to talk about. Are you outgoing? Can you carry on a conversation? Are you sometimes humorous? Then you can hit on someone with out fear. The trick is not to take their disinterest personally because most of the time it really isn’t you. For example, Saturday night I was out and was drooling madly over a dude on the other side of the room. This guy was positively gorgeous. However, by the end of the night the fact that he had a girlfriend had arose and I was out of the game. I don’t have self esteem issues so I took that for exactly what it was – nothing.
So, what am I getting at? Sorry ladies, I am with Steve here. I think that it would be interesting if for the entire month we (females) stepped up to the plate and did the asking. Why not? It’ll be fun and you can do it! Get out there, find yourself a good-looking dude and ask him out! Or at the very least, go try and pick him up. If everything is going smoothly, ask him for his number or to meet you for coffee the following day. Then, after you have done it, come back and tell us about it. Need some help, try this site…
It’s funny, I have been thinking about writing this entry for a few days now and jotting things down here and there that I wanted to include and now 
