I have to disagree with Steve on yesterday's post (new readers should read his first) . In most cases, its better to get to know a girl before asking her out. This helps avoid awkward situations, such as if she already has a boyfriend (as in your example), or just isn’t interested. It also allows you to differentiate between physical infatuation and real attraction. I’m not saying you need to become best buddies with the girl, but establishing some rapport is necessary.

Asking someone out immediately is only good in isolated cases such as at a bar or a party, in which you'll never see that person again. In this case, there's no other option, and fortunately, no significant social cost to being direct.

If this is someone you see regularly, as it seems to be in this case, it complicates the issue. Such situations require some measure of tact, as any dating-related awkwardness can potentially strain a platonic relationship. This platonic relationship is especially important if you'll be seeing her in a structured way (at work, in class, as part of an organization, etc...). In these cases, it is compulsory to act with discretion.

Steve, you of all people should realize this, especially after the letter incident.

I consider myself stronger that I don't have a girlfriend

Those of you that read Steve’s post today might be a little confused. After all, this blog is all about his attempts to get a girlfriend.

I’ve noticed a pattern of sorts in Steve’s posts. He’ll spend a few days writing about his failed attempts (click for my favorite example) to get into a relationship, then he’ll suddenly change gears and decide that relationships are a bad idea after all.

Perhaps I’m overanalyzing… Comments?

A few months ago, a friend and I went to Dairy Queen one night. We were sitting down enjoying our Blizzards when we happened to overhear a group of kids (I’d guess 15-16 years old) taking loudly near our table. We ignored them until one girl yelled the phrase “are you for serious?”

Now, I tend to take a few liberties with grammar, but this was too much. My friend and I snickered quietly, and then went back to minding our own business…

Greetings. My name is Brian, and I’ll be posting here occasionally.
Steve asked me to be a contributing writer in this blog. My purpose here is act as another point of view, and to interject with a post when the whim strikes me. My writings here will vary between humorous anecdotes, my own pseudo-intellectual ramblings and responses to Steve’s posts.