Entries by AdamK77

I'm a selfish man.

I hate not being in control.

I decided to end the relationship, so I ended it. As I said, I did not end it because I did not like her.

Continue reading "It is better to dump than be dumped"

I’ve done something that I didn’t think I would or could ever do. I was head over heels over the girl I was dating. She was cute, had great legs, educated and employed – I thought I had finally found someone to finally take up space in my heart.

Continue reading "When love just isn't enough"

Hello everyone! It’s been a long time since I’ve made a contribution. Karen’s recent article about leading men by the penis has enticed me to write about my personal, and recent, experience in this area.

As I’ve stated in my comment in Karen’s article, I believe there’s a very good reason for many women dressing in the revealing manner in which they do. This doesn’t necessarily mean showing a lot of skin. It means dressing in a way to entice the guys to have their imaginations run wild. It means dressing in a way to show off your best assets. It’s very true for me that I am more turned on by a woman wearing a thong under a see through dress than if she were actually nude.
Continue reading "Why not lead men by the penis?"

Here’s my update on the so called direct approach. That’s what everyone seems to be calling it, but all I’m doing is following a simple desire to see a girl I really like feel special with little or no concern for my own fear of rejection and disappointment.

Continue reading "The game comes to a close"

I’m going to keep everyone posted on my progress. Hopefully, it’ll be helpful to someone. I’ve officially started working to steal her heart. Oh, by the way, I also had my date today with the friend of one of the girls from my very eventful week. She didn’t do anything for me, and the whole time I was with her, all I could do was think about Sarah (the girl I like). I’m glad I met her though, because meeting her made me realize even more how much I liked Sarah and gave me an extra nudge to overcome the initial inertia of fear.

Continue reading "Let the game begin!"

If you haven’t already heard, I’ve finally found someone I really like. The heart's aflutter and the warm, fuzzy and company are back with a vengeance. Truth be told, I have not felt this way for over six years.



Naturally, the pain of rejection will be proportional to the level of attraction. Had I been younger, less experienced with the matters of the heart and the dating scene, I probably would not be able to handle this situation so calmly.


Continue reading "This is MY game, MY way!"

Here's an update of my dating life.

I don't mean to brag. Okay, maybe I want to brag a little <grin>. In the past week, I've met five girls. I didn't just meet them; they were chasing me. Aside from the five girls, Jessica, drunk, called me (I didn't call her for a while) and then started the sexual innuendos and the heavy flirting. And then there is one more girl that one of the five girls wants to hook me up with, which will probably happen sometime this week.

Continue reading "When it rains, it certainly pours!"

This is a bit of fuming on my part. I have no knowledge or theories to impart. This is a straight up whining, bitching, moaning and griping session. Maybe some of you will identify with me and holler back. So let me start my bitching fest and say that I'm totally sick and tired of girls. I still love them, but I think I need to recover and refill my tolerance pool.

In my previous article (titled, He's Just Not That Into You), I concluded by saying that I'm not going to invest anything more on this girl I've been dating for the past few months. I stayed true to my words, and I put thoughts of Jessica aside.

Continue reading "I'm sick and tired of this game"

I ran into the 19-year-old girl who I dated
months back and never called back.  She
didn’t recognize me though, because she seemed to have had a bit too much to
drink and was passed out on the couch.

There’s
something about the sight of a girl sleeping. Oh, by the way, I was a bit drunk
which accentuated my sentimental feelings. I saw her there in a fetal position
and every now and then lightly shivering from the cold. I kneeled down next to
her and called her by name, and she just moaned and mumbled something incomprehensible. It was so cute.
Continue reading "She is powerful"

I’m no player, nor do I desire to be one. There was a point
in my life when I tried to be one, and though I might have been met with some
success had I followed through, I would inexorably revert back to my old self.
Perhaps, with enough enthusiasm and effort, I may have been able to change my
ways. However, I was raised in an environment that instilled reasonable morals
and under the mantra of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

I could never just sleep with a girl and walk away
without leaving a part of myself with her. I get too emotionally attached, and
seeing a girl cry is one of my biggest weaknesses. So I am dating with the
long-term goal in mind. This means, possibly marriage.
Continue reading "Of Love & Arranged Marriages"

I remember hearing about that book that women recommend
single women to read -- He's Just Not That Into You, I think it's called. I've
only read bits and pieces of the book from the Internet, but I understand the
gist of it. So I'll say it, and it's coming from a perfectly heterosexual
person of the masculine, "The general gist of the book is true."

Most guys probably have an unpleasant place set aside
in their hearts for this book, as it perpetuates the so-called, notorious
"games" that females play. Let's be fair. Guys play the same game,
too, but as the hunter of the species, it probably frustrates us more than the
girls. Hence, the men feel an overwhelming sense of annoyance when confronted
with the "game". However, the book is not entirely untrue for the
reasons that will be set forth, and of which I garnered through recent
introspection of my dating experience.
Continue reading "He's Just Not That Into You"

I have a personal blog, but I don't write anything related to my dating life. A few of my dates and my friends read my personal blog, and my dating is something that's best kept a secret from them. So it seems that I will be sharing my stories and thoughts of dating here.



To start off with, here's a brief update on one of my previous articles where I requested some advice on breaking the physical barrier. Then, I'm going to rant a bit and let off some steam.
Continue reading "She Said What!?"

Editor's note: This article was originally submitted for publication on December 24.

As luck would have it, I'm on a business trip on Christmas eve. So it seems that I'm forced to write another article to pass the time.

It seems that even with all the success I've been enjoying with women as of late, I'm still a rank amateur when it comes to knowing what to do with a girl in whom I'm seriously interested.

While I was dating the girl who wasn't even old enough to drink (refer to my "Old man!" article), I've been seeing this other girl. She's in her mid-twenties and plays the dating game extremely well. I know for a fact that she's not uninterested in me, but her game is so good, as soon as I have a moment of clarity, I'm confounded by her next action.

Continue reading "The Next Move"

Editor's note: This article was submitted for publication on December 24, but was not noticed until today. I apologize to Adam for depriving everyone of this excellently-written article.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year everyone!

Man, I love young girls. As I get older, I just love them
more and more. I love their fair complexions, the short mini-skirts, the youthful
demeanor, and the scent of makeup and shampoo that just drives me crazy. It’s not
so much sex. I just want to bite them! Squeeze them! Oh so tight! Being around
young girls feels like a breath of fresh air.

I’ve been seeing a girl. We went out to grab a bite
and I ordered some beer. I asked if she wanted some too and she said “Sure!”
Then the waiter asked for her ID. I had forgotten that she just turned 19. I
looked at this girl sitting across from me and just couldn’t stop smiling at
her. Youth is a beautiful, beautiful thing!


Continue reading "Old man!"

Hello everyone! It's been a while since I have made a contribution. I didn't have anything worth saying that hasn't been said by other members (and said better too!). But it's Thanksgiving, my stomach's full, and I'm in a sharing mood haha.

Since becoming single, I've had some opportunities to have sex. I have turned them down. In one instance, I've had to show the girl my door and throw her out of my place. Why I didn't follow through is a story for another article. I want to talk a bit about what seems like a paradigm shift in attitude towards sex. Is it just that I have been out of the market for so long that I failed to notice that things have drastically changed? Or is it that I have never noticed it? In either case, it's certainly been something of a revelation to me.

Continue reading "Sex: A shift in paradigm?"